It's incredible how one day that is SOOOO important to 2 people, ultimately means so little to everyone else involved. I have been to a couple weddings in my time, some good, some bad. Some I had a blast at and hung out with some wonderful people, others I've seen and heard of being complete and total disasters.
Brian and I are not traditional people to say the least. My engagement ring (which could NOT have been more perfect for me) is a gorgeous 2 karat black diamond with 8 smaller white diamonds on either side.... It's stunning, and 'different'. The way we are looking at our wedding is... we'll go down south, and there will be enough alcohol and enough partying that the wedding will be somewhat secondary. I just want our friends to have a good time.
Having said that, I don't really know what I want. Again, friends, alcohol, some sun would be nice.... but I've never pictured my "perfect wedding" or had plans for it.... EVER. It's very foreign. I feel kind of like I'm doing everything wrong. That may be derived from the fact that every time I look at something to do.... I sort of take the common practice and go... "lets do the opposite"!
For my save the dates, it all started like this. I was assisting Brian with the U of T fast pitch team, helping family do x,y, and z..... and just needed a project, a craft that I could work on for me. I didn't think we were going to do save the dates, simply because a phone call and/or email would suffice while we're in china, and the invitation would suffice for the rest. BUT i thought this would be a good project. After much hunting and google-ing I noticed that most everyone used STD as their acronym. I kept thinking to myself, HOW are people not saying anything.... HOW are people getting away with this... is it because they're a 'bride' and everything has to be proper.... "Lets do the opposite"! So I went hunting, bought a bunch of prescription bottles, made my own labels and ordered custom m&m's with our picture (one of us fighting) and STD 11.12.13 written on them. I made the prescription labels explicitly declaring that 'Brian and Emily want to give you their STD'. I thought this was hilarious.... apparently not part of most 'normal' bride's 'perfect day'.I'm going white dress shopping today. I don't think i want to wear a white dress. In fact I'm pretty sure that I don't want to ... mind you the biggest shock to our guests would be if I showed up in one... but I don't know WHAT i want to wear. Hence the shopping..... My girlfriend pointed out that a) I should get to go try on big princessy dresses at least once in my life, so might as well go try some on...and b) I need to know what sort of style to look for...even if it's not white. So we're going dress shopping...
I find it weird that I'm looking at our wedding and thinking... wow spending $5000 on a wedding is a bit much!!! but that would be for a week vacation with my friends, etc. etc. I just can't justify spending $1000's of dollars on a dress for one day. I completely totally understand why OTHER people do it, but it's just not me.... I also feel like I'm looking more forward to the trash the dress session the day AFTER the wedding, than the actual wedding - but that may be the photographer at heart talking.
Anyways, the reason I write this is because... my parents love me, but my mom is not the wedding type...she hasn't pictured it for me since i was little, or have an opinion at all... she thinks the whole this is silly.... I don't want to be one of those friends that talks nothing about their wedding (it's TWO years away), and in being consciously aware of this, I noticed that.... besides the bride and groom, very few other people ACTUALLY care THAT much about other people's weddings..... It's not their fault, and they're not at all to blame... and I'm sure they care a little - enough to encourage and talk about plans, but not enough to stress out for the bride or anything.... It's just interesting.
I'm using it as an excuse! My girlfriends from back home have wanted to go down to mexico or something for years, all together, but we've all grown up, some married, some with major careers, and it just has never worked out..... this gives them an excuse, a reason to actually 'get 'er done'!
